I’ve been gone awhile. The year ended roughly for me but more roughly for my family.

My husband’s father died and his current wife neglected to tell him There is SO MUCH I’d like to say about that, that I”d like to DO about that. But we’ll just leave the fact that she DIDN’T tell two of his sons about his passing …well as much as I’d like to go into excruciating detail about this woman’s issues, I won’t.

I’ve had to leave behind a job that I loved. That I cared about. That I wanted to be in for years.

Because they just aren’t ready for me or someone like me. Yet.

Maybe in a few years.

Seriously. I did more in a day than some folks did in a week. And everyone knew it. Myself included. And I got paid a damn sight less than the ones surfing the web all day.

So I got a new jorb.

Yep. More fixing. Less amorphous er..stuff. SO looking forward to it. I can barely contain myself.

I actually mean that. I’m great at fixing stuff and making people feel good about it and I want that.

I’ll write the sad song leaving the job I wanted to make a difference in …well in month or something.

I’ll write the happy song about the job I AM making a difference in in about a month or so too.

This year has brought me many strange moments. I’ve learned a lot about myself and even with how crazy work got that has been and will be valuable.

I lost 35 pounds by not eating shit. White bread, sugar, starches, processed crap. I can see my abdominal muscles now. I have a dream I will be oiled and posing in a year. No seriously. I actually do want to do that. And lift REALLY HEAVY things.

When I got all in love with music that I COULD NOT(allow myself to ) STAND way back when or if I did I hid to myself listening with a tape deck placed up against my mom’s bigass solid state record player setup. Looked like this. That click click and stutter. Ahhh.

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And I found that same feeling on twitter again thanks to a few amazing tweeps. Like @slolife82 who not only validated my latent love for silly 80s pop but turned me on to new music

And to Jill C who gave me the present of the year. She gave me MAX RAABE. The band I’ve gone insane for. The band I’ve brushed up my German for. The Orchestra that sounds like what is in my heart, somehow. It’s pop and Weimar and big band and…everything I need when the day goes utterly off kilter. It sounds like the soundtrack me, right now and maybe with then too.

I can’t believe I didn’t always know him. She gave me what I always should have had.

And Paula from Don’t Be a pickle Bump for being a terrific friend and kind encourager. She gives me the desire to go back to my art, however limited my art may be (unlike hers). Which is something that Tui Snider does at her blog. I think I might have stopped writing this year were it not for these two wonderful women.

And @sataninsingsing for being a wondrous foil and gorgeous wench. We have burned up #wineparty with our possible nuptials and I’m still sorry I’m already married. Guess I should have said that up front (hee).

And then there is the famous @jillsmo who made me the best icon I shall forever need to use. A cat, with pants and a belt. First, She’s really freaking nice, second she’s funny as hell. and I’ve figured out she’s all like popular and shit. Second, she’s hilarious. Third, she made me a cat, with pants AND a belt. Also she’s really damn nice, I said that before but YEAH she is. . And you should READ her BLOG Yeah, Good Times.

@whoa_nellykins. Well what can I say. I wish I were YOUR tech. We could kick serious educational ass.

@snarklystreet I just adore you and KNOW you will rock the world with your big brain. YOU WILL.

Darklings there is more. I know I’m missing some of ya’ll and I apologize. Will you let me blame it on an excess of vino and allow me to give you your own moment in the coming year when I haven’t had such a shitty one?

@serrabellum you’ve been a good sister and friend. I know I’m as difficult as you are and I love that we care for each other

And HeatherRoni. We hated then we loved and now I just adore you. You are a fierce dragon wench that I wish I had more time with.

And my sister who is not all wired in and suchlike. I can’t tell you how happy I am that we are actually KNOWING each other. That we are loving and trusting each other. I love being around you and hope we can do it so much more and with your darling P in the coming year.

Perhaps I’ll give you more tomorrow or in a day when I’ve recovered from this red wine, but I have to tell you all—While I do not look like

chet

I might actually feel like it.

PLEASE if I did not mention you it is due to 1 of a couple of things

my own rather being tipsy writing

two I’ve been all submerged in our bowl of cornflakes and not out there in the world as much as usual. Yeah that sums up the various issues pretty well. That is about to change.

Finally thank you to my husband and the Bean for being patient with me this year. It has been rough on all of us and I haven’t had all I wanted to have to give you. I’m so lucky to have you both.

Ok, so there you go. More important than my own navel gazing are thank yous. So These are they. And I know I’ve left folk out. You know me, give me a chance and I’ll just love all over you.

Here’s to ya.

May the saint protect ye-
An’ sorrow neglect ye,
An’ bad luck to the one
That doesn’t respect ye
t’ all that belong to ye,
An long life t’ yer honor-
That’s the end of my song t’ ye!

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27
Dec

Eureka it all works

   Posted by: Jyllian M   in Blogging, nablopomo, Resound11, Reverb10, Social Media

Well I think I have all of the various ways to connect set up now, though in less than 30 days I have to decide between ecto and mars edit when I’m using the MacBook. It seems true that the MacBook will become the choice for blog posting but BUT nothing equals windows live writer. Damn.
Also I will have to pay for one of those which I am loathe to do. Especially since the damn MacBook was such a capital outlay.

Also I may be moving from Pandora to Spotify which irks me as well because we are going from 36 bucks a year to more than twice that. ARgh what do I do?

We are also hooking up a puter to the tv and considering getting rid of cable …maybe that will make up for Spotify and uverse cable?

How have y’all managed ?

And please no castigating about tv because seriously we read an insane amount and very fast so we get to watch as much tv as we want to. Our kidlet is held to a high standard as well.

Trying this on the iPad so bear with me…

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22
Dec

Testing the ecto Mac client for blogging

   Posted by: Jyllian M   in Blogging

So far nothing even approaches Windows Live writer.

Oh well. Will update more later today.

May test MarsEdit too, but it is expensive!

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Well, where is my mind.

My mind is on leaving my current job and going to my next one. I can’t say that I’ve got my head in the #reverb11 #resound11 etc game. I wish I did. I wanted too.

There are just so many places to visit to find the people doing this challenge that my libra self is overwhelmed.

I’m also just so sad to leave my current job. Don’t get me wrong, this is the right decision. This will be me doing more of what I like to do and not fighting a lot of uphill battles. The new crew looks great and I’ve heard what a nice environment it is. I’m really REALLY looking forward to it.

That doesn’t mean I’m not sad. I’ve worked with some amazing teachers and principals. I’ve had a couple of really great bosses. I’ve gotten to know some incredible techs and some really kind and dedicated people. But it was time to go.

There were things. I don’t even know how much I could or should say. Things that just didn’t work for me anymore.  The old writing on the wall thing.

I’m in a between place right now and all my soul searching energy has gone into making this decision. Do I stay and keep trying or do I say “ok, I’ve done my very best and while it helped, it wasn’t what was needed at this time, time to cut my losses” or do I remain and keep pushing? It was time. Time to go.

And the thing is I’ve learned a lot. I have learned that I was and am good with people. That I like being around people, helping them and to quote the paclids, “making things go.”  I have learned how much I prize civility and structure. I’ve learned that I didn’t lose my brain during that time spent being Mommy.

So I’m looking toward the next thing. And while I still have one foot in the past and one stepping forward, feeling like I’m half in and half out of the tardis—well I guess I just haven’t had lots to say other than that. And how many times can you say that?

I'm the Doctor

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I’m just going to start writing. I’m several days behind. I couldn’t write because what I wanted to write about I’d been asked not to write about.

This intersection of work and the internet is a very interesting place. I mean I wasn’t specifically asked not to write in my blog, but I was asked not to let everyone know I’d gotten a new job.

which meant…no tweeting, no fbing, no blogging, no tumblr of my new building…NO communication.

And I wasn’t supposed to talk about it either. Not talking was easier than not electronically communicating. That is interesting

GAAAA

Been biting my tongue and sitting on my hands for a few days now.

I am sad to leave my current job but I am excited about my new job.  I hope the blogging floodgates will open again soon.

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Take a minute and think about what your biggest time wasters. What are they? What would happen if you took some of the time you were spending on these things and focused on pursuiting your dreams and goals? Are there other areas in your day where you could work on your passions?

 

Well I have to confess. I do most of my shopping online. So I do a lot of looking. And some of that is pretty mindless. I look at shoes. I try and find the best price—not so bad in itself, but honestly sometimes I’m just doing it because I don’t feel like doing anything else.

 

I don’t think of twitter as a time waster really. First of all I’m not on there very much. Also it’s interaction. I feel much the same about Facebook but there—well you can tell when you are just doinking around and not actually catching up or finding out what your friends are up to.

 

I read A LOT. So I don’t feel like I need to do more of that. I read frequently and very very fast.

I do have bouts of watching a lot of TV—mainly when I’m stressed and I need to be distracted. Or when I can’t sleep. I don’t really feel guilty about that either because like I said, I read so much it balances out how much I watch tv shows or movies.

I do think I could spend less time just looking at Sephora or Macy’s or ebay or Etsy. I could then work on learning more programming skillz or go back to making my collage boxen. I could also get outside with Bean more often—as a family we aren’t great about that after about October.

Hmm…yes. There needs to be more engagement, less disengagement. Hopefully soon the stress will abate and that will become possible. For now? I’m watching Law and Order and looking for new Doc Marten’s.

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the man who danced to weapon of choice

who was always our icon of creepy uncles.

Didn’t haven anything to do with that death some 100 odd years ago with that girl who was in a Santa Claus movie right?

Because he wouldn’t have been able to dance. RIGHT?

 

I went through this with Pete Townshend. I know they are just people like you and me. But you do look up to and admire some of these folks. So I have to think this will not the be case.

Because good art can’t come from bad people right. Yes I know it can, I just wish it it weren’t so. There’s an story  I read somewhere about a fearsome visaged man, uncouth and unclean who created the most delicate paintings. It is  Japanese story I think. This is an age old matter. Not for me to figure out, but what I’d like to think is that he wouldn’t have been able to dance with such grace if he was a murderer.

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While being an adult is all fine and good, there’s something that nourishes the soul when we play and have fun. What’s your favorite kind of play? What do you enjoy about it? When’s the last time you played?

Well that’s interesting. I used to play quite a bit more. I used to take walks in the morning and look for deer and rabbits. I haven’t been ablet to take morning walks for sometime. 1) ankle problems…but those are getting taken care of –I have a month’s worth of physical therapy to schedule. And just exhaustion. I’ve been working SO much, doing SO much more with more being piled on all the time that I’m just burnt out. So no getting up early to walk.

I used to make collage boxes. Those were art and play. Glue and scissors, pictures, beads, toys from vending machines. I’ve missed that. I haven’t done it in over a year. I love the process and the product. Something that comes out of

That needs to change. I think I’ll clean up the dining room table this weekend and turn it back into my art table.

I make movies. I love doing that. Various programs. MANY programs. I’ll play with any of them.

I just got a usb turntable. It should be play for me to pull all those old LPs into my music collection but I’ve been too…something from the process of interviewing/deciding to leave current job.

#wineparty was play—a chance to be witty and outrageous. It’s not where my head is right now, but it will be again at some point I’m sure. It’s hilarious and a lovely group of people.

Swimming with the kidlet and playing with floating devices is fun. Haven’t done that since the summer.

Still can’t ride my bike. Maybe I’ll try that early in the morning Saturday. Just up and down the street, with a lot of ibuprophen and an icepack at the ready.

I quit playing this year and yes, that needs to change.

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it isn’t that there haven’t been a lot of great prompts, there have been.

It isn’t that I haven’t wanted to write on some of them, I have.

It’s just that I’m right in the middle of something I can’t actually talk or write anything about until Monday.

Because.

Oh I’m tempted, but no. And this elephant in my blogging room is constipating me.

So, I’m going to keep showing up and saying how I can’t write or something and burp a few words out here and then go back.

And yes I’m a day behind. I’m overcome with emotional narcolepsy right now. I am tired, more than a little cranky and I would REALLY just like it to be Monday or something already.

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I want a Reverb 11, Resound 11, Weverb11 etc etc  prompt aggregator.  I’d like to choose a prompt without having to locate several many websites.

Luckily though Geekin Hard has collected many in one link page so that now there’s just no need to have a complete libra collapse.

It’s actually not THAT onerous, and it is interesting, I think I’m just a bit overwhelmed with the whole thing. Too many choices. ARGH

And of course with other things too.

So you know what again, I’m just checking in. We went to the Bean’s Children’s Choir Christmas Concert tonight with my Mom and that was nice. The kids sang the Grinch and it was about the cutest thing ever.

There was also the older kid’s choir, an adult choir and a Bell Choir. The folks playing the Bells looked so incredibly happy to be performing. And a Bell choir is really neat. I was reminded what was missing from my own life watching those folks smile their way through their performance—and they were genuine smiles.

So again, I’m just enjoying a day of NOT. Not gonna do it. I’m going to go sit over here and eat worms, grow mushrooms, pout in the dark—you name it, I’m NOT going to do it.

Maybe I’ll be back tomorrow.

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